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Blimey, so much about being supportive. I just had a meeting with our
departmental director and my head of department. My boss is really
happy for me about my pregnancy, but you can’t say that about the
director. He kept pushing for us to implement the project early in
next year when the realistic timelines are Q2. I didn’t know what to
say and my boss said that there is only the little, growing
‘situation’ that could make this difficult. The director already knew
that I am pregnant but hasn’t spoken to me. You know what his response
was? It wasn’t ‘Oh yes, I heard. Congratulations.’, it was ‘Yes. True.
Great. So who is going to do it when she is gone?’

Well, I tried not to take it personal. I understand it creates an
issue for the company and I know he is really excited about the
project and the work I am doing so the news that I’ll leave half way
through to a baby is probably not the most exciting thought ever in
his books. But a little ‘Congrats’ still would have been nice.

Anyway, he is a very structured person and likes facts so he started
firing questions at me. Like ‘When are you leaving?’ I told him that I
am planning beginning of December, but he wanted a firm date. Sorry
mate, I don’t have a firm date yet. By law I don’t even need to tell
you anything until 4th October...
I don’t expect anyone to jump up and down in excitement at hearing my
news (even though quite a few people did) but I thought it was polite
to at least congratulate someone on their news.

On a different note – my sister had a bit of a shock last week. She
started having contractions, but she is only 25 weeks. She went to see
the doctor and was off ill for a week, but everything seems to be okay
now and no harm seems done. It’s quite a scare though. I hope I won’t
have anything like this.

I’ll have to be careful not to take on too much. I did a lot of
packing on Saturday. I didn’t lift major things, but it was still very
tiring. We are planning to move in less than 2 weeks after all. The
contract is still pending on a minor detail, but hopefully that should
all sort itself in the next few days and we couldn’t risk leaving the
packing until last minute. I couldn’t have done a full week of packing
even if I would have wanted to take the holiday. On Sunday I was
planning to do quite a bit more but I felt really exhausted in the
morning. Normally I would have pushed myself to do it anyway, but with
the baby I didn’t want to take any risks. I did some really light
packing in the evening, but no more than an hour. It means we have
more to do next weekend, but I guess my husband will have to do more
then. I am not prepared to take any risk with this little one. But it
is quite difficult to notice your limits when you always pushed
yourself past them.